Thanks and Politeness in Japanese
Thank you in Japanese runs on a scale, and picking a point on it is the whole skill. Doumo to the person who held a door. Arigatou to a friend. Arigatou gozaimasu to almost everyone else. Makoto ni arigatou gozaimasu when something genuinely cost the other person effort.
Overshooting is safer than undershooting, but it is not free: full formal thanks for a small favour puts distance between you and the other person. That is why shop staff hear arigatou gozaimasu and close friends hear arigatou, and why the shortest form, doumo, does more work in daily life than any textbook admits.
All 13 phrases in this section
Each one has its own page with the kana, the romaji, a literal breakdown of what the words actually say, and a note on when it fits and when it does not.
- After youお先にどうぞ
- Here you areどうぞ
- Let's eat / thanks for this foodいただきます
- No thank you結構です
- Not at all / it was nothingいいえ
- Please (give me this)ください
- Please (I'm asking a favour)お願いします
- Sorry for the trouble / thanks for your effortお疲れ様です
- Thank youありがとうございます
- Thank you for the mealごちそうさまでした
- Thank you (for what you did)ありがとうございました
- Thank you for your helpお世話になりました
- You're welcomeどういたしまして
The rest of the phrasebook
- Greetings挨拶14
- Apologies謝罪13
- Yes, No and Understanding返事14
- Introductions自己紹介13
- Small Talk雑談13
- Numbers and Counting数14
- Time and Dates時間13
- Asking Directions道案内14
- Trains and Stations電車15
- Taxis and Busesタクシー13
- Hotels and Ryokan宿14
- Restaurants and Ordering食事16
- Allergies and Food Restrictions食事制限13
- Convenience Stores and Shopping買い物14
- Money and Payment支払い13
- Temples and Sightseeing観光13
- Onsen and Public Baths温泉13
- Health and Pharmacy体調14
- Emergencies緊急14
- Lost Things and Trouble困りごと13
- Phone and Internet通信12
- Weather and Seasons天気13
- Reactions and Compliments相づち13
- Goodbyes別れ13
